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Adios decade!

People keep making Top 10 and Top 100 lists of the decade, and I was considering making a Top 10 Album list. Music for me is associated with a time, an event, a place, certain people, and so this question for a Top 10 made me think back about everything that's happened in the past decade, and I was kind of bowled over. I haven't been through anything impossible or even that unusual, but I'm pretty sure that if I look back when I'm 80, and make a histogram of my life, it will look something like this:


So my Top 10 list is of life-changing events. I tried to put them in order of importance, but instead they are in order by when they occurred. In short, I am ready for this damned decade to be over.

Denise's Top 10 Life-Changing Events of the Decade:
1. College / grad school
2. Keegan's birth
3. Getting married
4. Getting divorced
5. Living alone for the first time
6. Teaching high school
7. Dating someone who really saw me
8. Peace Corps
9. Mom's death
10. Dad's stroke

Comments

Briana said…
Have you noticed that of your four levels of "life activity" there, only one of them is a positive state? I think you need a better scale with some more positive states in between "meh" and "barely standing." Give life a bigger target to aim for that still makes you happy...

That being said, at least you know you'll end the decade with a big happy bang in NY!
December 18, 2009 at 2:00 PM
Anonymous said…
It's not so much that the change is all bad, it's just that this much change in such a small time is hard on me, whether the changes themselves are good or bad.
December 18, 2009 at 4:42 PM
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