I write about my mom a lot, primarily because of how close we were and because it's easier to write about someone who you know can't read what you're writing. Also, my relationship with my dad has always been... complicated. Yesterday I was scrubbing a grill and baking ribs and doing yard work and I had one of those moments when I thought my mom might be really proud of me. She gave me a kind of independence that lets me believe I can do just about anything that I can Google instructions for. And I also realized that being perpetually single is made infinitely easier by having had a mother who made it clear that I don't need a man to clean the gutters. Today I've been thinking about the ways having my dad in particular made me who I am. I'm watching baseball, which I love because of him. I played softball specifically so that we'd have something to talk about other than fishing. He and mom are both responsible for my ability to fix things, for my ...
I am always doing that which I cannot do, in order that I may learn how to do it. - Pablo Picasso